Still Life

Still Life

“Still Life,” the theme for this week’s photo, immediately brought to mind paintings of fruit and flowers. It also brought to mind my son, the antithesis of “still life” if there ever was one.

Instead of trying to get a photo of my son in a rare still moment (you can see one of those at last week’s “Siesta” picture), or a composed photo of cut flowers arranged in a vase like my mental image of “Still Life,” I decided to shoot the beautiful flowers that are now blooming outside my front window.

Why? Because flowers are something that can still my son when we go for walks. He is so high-energy, and races his motorcycle as fast as he can, but when we come across flowers he has to stop every time and give them all a sniff. Often I have trouble keeping him from racing up to people’s front doors if they have flowers flanking the doorway; he wants to smell them all. I try and contain him to flowers that are accessible from the sidewalks only.

What do you think of for “Still Life?”

For more photos illustrating “Still Life,” visit Kent Weakley, who is hosting for Darcy at my3boybarians.

Cream Cheese Pound Cake

Cream Cheese Pound Cake

I’ve never liked pound cake. Not homemade, not from a box, not the frozen kind that my mom always bought. To me, pound cake was a waste of calories; boring and blah.

That is, until I made Cream Cheese Pound Cake. Suddenly the pound cake had a luscious texture and a subtle tang that made it irresistible to me. And my son. And husband. And I’m sure my daughter would agree, if only I’d ever shared it with her.

The recipe is originally from Southern Cakes: Sweet and Irresistible Recipes for Everyday Celebrations, but this is how I make it:

Ingredients
3 cups (360 grams) all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, softened
1 8-ounce package cream cheese, softened
3 cups (600 grams) sugar
6 eggs, at room temperature
2 teaspoons vanilla extract

Directions
Preheat the oven to 325. Spray two 9×5″ loaf pans with baking spray*

Combine the flour, baking powder, and salt together and whisk to evenly mix.

Combine the softened butter and cream cheese in large bowl, and beat well with a mixer until soft and fluffy. Add the sugar and mix 3 more minutes. Add eggs, one at a time, mixing for 1 minute after each egg is added, scraping down the sides of the bowl as needed. Mix in the vanilla.

Add the flour mixture in two batches, mixing on low speed just until the flour is incorporated.

Spread the batter into the prepared pans, and bake for 55 – 65 minutes, until the cake pulls away from the sides, and a toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out clean.

Cool completely on a wire rack before turning out of pan.

Variations, Modifications, and Other Comments

Please don’t substitute margarine for the butter. There aren’t enough other ingredients to mask the flavor that would be missing.

I always weigh my ingredients, so the volume measurements for the flour and sugar aren’t what I use.

If the cake is underbaked, the center remains ridiculously gooey, which I find delicious, so I tend to err on the side of underbaking.

The cakes freeze beautifully, either as a whole cake, or, what I do is cut it into individual slices, then flash freeze them on a baking sheet. Once they’re frozen solid, I put them into a freezer container and can then pull out slices as I want them. They take very little time to defrost enough to eat, and I like them when they’re still very cold.

You could substitute other flavored extracts for the vanilla, but you run the risk of masking the lovely cream cheese flavor.

*Baking spray is the spray that includes flour. Alternatively, you can grease and flour the pans, but I am lazy and like the spray that does both in one shot.

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Review: 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think

Getting the most out of your 168 hours takes discipline in a distracted world.

When you focus on what you do best, on what brings you the most satisfaction, there is plenty of space for everything.

In Laura Vanderkam‘s book 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think, her premise is basically the same as in her book All The Money in the World – that everything is about choices and priorities. When we say “yes” to one thing, it means we say “no” to something else. Whether that yes is to spending money on one thing versus another, or using time for one thing instead of another.

Vanderkam does an excellent job of emphasizing prioritizing what you do with your time, so that you are choosing to use your 168 hours every week in a way that gets you closer to your goals and priorities. The book is really less about time-management than prioritizing and discipline. That’s something that everyone can benefit from I believe.

I especially appreciated the section on developing a list of 100 Dreams, and seeing what you could do to make progress towards those dreams. I also thought her suggestion on developing a list of tasks you can do in 30 minutes or less, and a list of ones that you can do in 10 minutes or less was brilliant. I very rarely have any large blocks of time to accomplish things, but I can find 5 – 15 minutes semi-regularly throughout the day.

What else did I like?

I liked that it got me thinking about how I spend my time and how I could better spend it to align with my priorities and goals, instead of frittering it away on insignificant things.

I liked the reminder to think about my time over the course of a week instead of only one day at a time.

I liked the encouragement to re-frame my thinking to “it’s not a priority,” instead of “I don’t have time.”

I liked the examples she gave of people who are accomplishing a lot by really thinking about how they use their time.

I liked the concept of the 100 Dreams List, and the encouragement to take action towards items on that list.

I liked her focus on core competencies (although I would argue with her over her feelings about child care on that list).

I did have one big complaint about the book, and that was that I think she really trivialized the value of being a stay-at-home parent. She seems to relish repeating statistics that stay-at-home moms spend insignificant amounts of extra time on meaningful interactions with their children when compared to full-time working moms.

Her opinion is apparently that mothers should of course work full time (part-time work being no real work-life balance; it allows too little time for work and too much for life). “Quality time” with children for a few hours in the evening and longer hours on weekends provides ample opportunity to nurture those bonds, and daycare or a nanny can easily handle routine care tasks that aren’t a core competency.

Yes, I’m a stay-at-home mom, and yes, I was disappointed in her implication that so much of what I do is meaningless and should be outsourced so that I could focus on my Career (please note the capital-C Career). She explicitly states in the final chapter that the key message of the book is that there is time for anything that matters. I guess I do agree with this premise, I just disagree with her on some of what matters. However, this complaint does not take away from the value I did find in the book.

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April Goals Review and May Goals

My April Goals Were:

  1. Caught up on sharing pictures of the kids. I know the grandparents would all really appreciate this. :)
    Done!
  2. Host family dinner and fantasy baseball draft. (a.k.a. get the house presentable and get the food ready.)
    Done!
  3. Find a new couch for family room. Preferably one that can be here before all the hosting duties.
    Done! New loveseat too, but it wasn’t in stock so it’ll arrive eventually. Probably in June.
  4. Cancel old blog hosting (make sure new one is all set first.)Not done because I cannot figure out how to transfer my domain registration, and I don’t want to cancel the hosting until I know that the registration is not going to get messed up. It’s making my brain hurt.
  5. Work on filing mess
    Done, thanks to my sneaky phrasing. I worked on it, and got it down to a much less embarrassing pile on my bookcase. There is still some to do, but it’s no longer towering above me
  6. Paint the downstairs bathroom.
    Done! Not that I did any of it, except approve the color, but it is done and it looks so much better.
  7. Hire a blog designer.
    Decided to switch this goal to “hire a blog consultant” when Christin offered her new consulting/critique business. So I hired her instead of a designer, although I may do that too eventually. Either way, I’m counting it as done because I did intentionally decided to change the goal
  8. Make appointment with attorney to get wills done (MIL is coming for a visit so if we can do it while she’s in town, she can watch the kiddos. Sadly, I have to admit that I did not do this. No real reason other than the pressure of finally deciding who to call, and coordinating the timing with my husband.

May Goals:

  1. Get address mess fixed with T Rowe Price
  2. Decide cars we want to test drive (maybe take some test drives while Mother-in-Law is here?)
  3. Outgrown kids clothes sorted and stowed. Other kids stuff in the basement organized.
  4. Work on filing mess. (Yes, putting this on again because it’s still not completed.)
  5. Straighten out domain registration confusion, and cancel old blog hosting.

Five goals, but #1 should be easy, and #4 is a cheaty goal again.

Actually #2 shouldn’t be too bad either, it’s just finalizing what vehicles we want to consider, and I think I’m already pretty close to calling the list complete. Then it’s a matter of getting Mr. SJ to see what he thinks, and if he wants to eliminate any of them right away. After that, it’s on to test driving.

The kid’s clothes and toys and equipment will be the most time-consuming goal, but as long as my MIL is here I should be able to get to it with no problem. It’s just impossible to do with the help of small children, which is why it’s been waiting and waiting.

What are your goals for May?

Seven Quick Takes: Most Memorable Books Edition

Anne from a Modern Mrs. Darcy has had a “The Book That Changed My Life” Carnival going on this week. I didn’t participate because I can’t really think of a book that strikes me as “This Book Changed me.” But it did get me thinking of what books have been the most memorable.

— 1 —

All those kid’s books that my mom read overandoverandover. Nope, no specific names here, because there were so many. I’ve got pictures of me as a toddler hefting a pile of books almost as big as me. I’ve got a picture of me passed out in the chair surrounded by books. I’ve even got a picture of me on the little kid potty, reading books.

I wanted my mom to read those books so many times that she finally made her own books on tape, complete with a little chime to tell me when to turn the page. I would listen to them endlessly, so much so that I learned to read when I was barely 3 just from sheer repetition. A relative thought I’d simply memorized those books, and brought out new ones to test me. To her shock, it confirmed that I was really reading!

Pure determination and desire (and a lot of repetition by my mom) opened up the world of books to me long before I’d have learned in school. It may be cheating because I don’t remember the specific titles, but as a group the story of how I learned to read has entered family lore, as has the early start to my reading addiction.

— 2 —

The Little House series. The books, not the TV series, which I always hated because of how it departed from the books.

I read these countless times as a child, and certain scenes have stuck with me. Laura and her family using their coffee grinder to prepare the wheat for their small daily ration of bread in The Long Winter. All the glorious food described in Farmer Boy. Jack the brindle bulldog trotting along beneath their wagon as they traveled west.

I’m anxious to share these stories with my children, and I hope they love them as much as I did.

— 3 —

Anne of Green Gables. I’m still determined to travel to Prince Edward Island someday so I can see the setting for this book and the others by L. M. Montgomery. Anne was so real to me, and her books made me long to have a close friend like her. I’m glad I have a daughter to share this book with her someday. And while I liked all of the series well enough, the first book was definitely my favorite.

— 4 —

Jane Eyre. I read this as a fairly young child (5th grade or 6th), and to this day I remember the shock some people expressed when they found out I was reading it. I didn’t get the surprise – there was nothing that complicated to understand in the book, and it had such an exciting ending. I did reread it a few years ago, to see how I liked it as an adult, and yes I missed some of the subtleties, but it’s still not anything I would say I shouldn’t have been reading, which is the impression I remember getting.

— 5 —

The James Herriot books (All Creatures Great and Small, All Things Bright and Beautiful, All Things Wise and Wonderful, and The Lord God Made Them All). My mom got me started on these books, and she used to read one chapter a night. I’ve never had any interest in being a vet, certainly not a large animal vet in the Yorkshire Dales, but these books transported me. I still own them, and hope that my children like hearing them all, one chapter at a time.

— 6 —

The Distant Summer by Sarah Patterson. I first read this as a teen or maybe even a pre-teen as a Reader’s Digest Condensed Book. I’m somewhat embarrassed to admit how much I adored this story. It’s a sappy love story! Sappy love story or not, I read it multiple times, and have never forgotten the story or characters. Definitley one of my guilty reading pleasures. I’ve always wondered if I would still love it as an adult, so writing this post made me curious enough to order the book (long out of print, there are used copies available). I’m somewhat scared to see if reading it now will taint my fond memories, but I’m going to try it anyway.

— 7 —

The Harry Potter series . I was an adult when I read this series, but it’s so special to me because of my grandmother. When I was in graduate school (the first time), I lived with my parents, and my grandmother also moved in due to declining health. She loved to read and I would do my best to keep her well stocked with reading material. As her eyesight continued to diminish, she got pickier and pickier about what she would read; it had to be worth the effort, and she knew she only had so many more books left that she’d get to.

Harry Potter made the cut, and we would both anxiously await the newest volume. I bought very few new books, especially fiction, but made an exception for Harry. There was no way we’d be able to wait to get a copy from the library!

I think I was more upset than my grandmother when Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince (Book 6), was too heavy for her to hold, and so remained unread. She died before Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows (Book 7) was ever published.

I still love Harry Potter not just for the great story, but because it reminds me of my adored grandmother and how much she enjoyed it. And what a kick she got out of reading “a kid’s book.”

For more Quick Takes, visit Conversion Diary, and for some real Books That Changed My Life, visit the Modern Mrs. Darcy.

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Siesta

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My son almost never naps any more (unfortunately for me), but it had been a busy day and he conked out while watching a TV show.

Invariably when he falls asleep midday, it’s in the oddest positions that have me wondering how on earth that can possibly be comfortable enough to sleep. And yet he does.

Do you take a siesta during the day? I would love to if I could just get my kids to cooperate!

Visit my3boybarians for more pictures illustrating “Fiesta or Siesta.”

Spicy Macaroni and Cheese

In honor of me kicking off regular food blogging, here is a spicy macaroni and cheese dish I made recently. Because it definitely had a kick to it.

Spicy Macaroni and Cheese

I love pasta. I could probably eat it close to every day and still not get tired of it. I especially love macaroni and cheese, and am always on the hunt for new versions of it.

Spicy Macaroni and Cheese

Ingredients:
1 pound short pasta. (I used campanelle)
olive oil
butter
1 onion, diced
1 can chipotle corn, drained
1 can diced jalapeño, drained
1 1/4 cups whole milk
1 1/4 cups grated Pepper Jack cheese
cayenne pepper
salt
pepper

Directions:
Cook pasta according to package directions.

Add olive oil and butter to large skillet over medium-high heat. (I add enough to generously coat the bottom of the pan. For mine, that’s about 1 tablespoon of each). Add onion and cook until well softened. Add corn and jalapeño and cook for one minute.

Reduce heat to low. Add milk, then slowly add the cheese and stir until melted. Add cayenne pepper, salt and pepper to taste. (I added about 3/4 teaspoon of cayenne pepper, but the amount you add is completely up to you and your level of heat tolerance. You don’t have to add any at all!)

Drain pasta, reserving some of the cooking water, and add to cheese sauce. Stir gently to combine everything. Check seasonings and adjust as needed. Add reserved pasta cooking water if needed to thin out the sauce.

Variations, Modifications, and Other Comments:

  • You could substitute green chiles for the jalapeño, or use them in addition.
  • If I’d had a fresh jalapeño, I would have used that instead of the canned, and added it after the onion had softened slightly.
  • If I’d had any sweet peppers of any color I would have sauteed one along with the onion as well.
  • Habañero cheese would be delicious, but I’d probably dial back on the other spicy options if I went with that.
  • You could substitute evaporated milk for the whole milk, and get a lower-fat & calorie dish. You could also use low-fat or skim milk, although the final dish wouldn’t taste the same.
  • I don’t like much garlic which is why I don’t include any, but the inspiration recipe calls for it and most people would probably like it.

The recipe was inspired by The Pioneer Woman’s Not-your-granny’s-mac-and-cheese.